One of my most favorite lines in a movie comes from the film “Love Comes Softly.”
If you haven’t seen the movie, I highly recommend it.
But in the rare case that you haven’t, indulge me…
A young woman follows her still newlywed husband out west to pioneer new land and start a life for themselves, when suddenly he is tragically killed. Out of necessity, she is left with the bitter consequence of marrying another man to survive. But happy is her fate, that she is approached by a kind and gentle man who will marry her. Which also helps him in his widowed state to care for his two children, especially his daughter, and continue to survive the difficult life of pioneer living.
At the turning point of the movie, the young woman, Marty, is at the end of her rope. She is having a difficult time accepting her new life and moving on with her new husband in her still raw state of grief, when the wisely pioneer woman friend/neighbor begins to encourage her. You find out that she too has been remarried out of necessity as well. Much to Marty’s shock and surprise, because they seem so happily matched.
The wisely pioneer woman looks at the surprise on Marty’s face and says these few poignant words:
“You know, sometimes love isn’t fireworks.
Sometimes, love just comes softly.”
It is just a few simple words, but they are my fave.
And they are not my most favorite for their creativity,
or because they one any Grammys, or Emmys, or whatever.
They probably were never even noted.
They are not my favorite because of how well the actress delivers them,
although I will say, she NAILS it!
They are my favorite because they are so rich with truth and YOU KNOW IT!
Not only was it true back then for survival, but even today.
And to me, it is SO MUCH MORE ROMANTIC than all the Romeo-and-Juliet-love-at-first-sight love stories COMBINED!
I don’t know exactly why, but maybe it’s because choosing to love someone is one of the most beautiful things on this earth. When in spite of your feelings, sometimes your family, the nay-sayers, sometimes your pride, you lay all of it aside and make the conscious decision to love.
Or at least, to allow love to work, to grow, to bloom in your heart.
This has such truth because it is something God still wants us to do everyday;
allow His love to grow toward others in our hearts.
I personally, have thought of this line so many times as I have seen it lived out in my own heart and in the hearts of my children. And to me, it is one of the most beautiful, most romantic things I have ever been a part of. And today, on Lily’s Gotcha Day it is especially close to the surface.
I have seen love grow.
I have seen it come softly; like buds quietly emerging in spring.
It was definitely not fireworks.
There was a lot of screaming and tears and some people almost ran for their life that day.
I’m not naming any names though.
And for these first years home and even still,
it’s alot of give and take.
Some days are good, some days are bad.
But love still grows when you allow it.
It grows even in the hard places of hearts.
You just have to give it the opportunity.
And what I feel that the Lord has revealed to me is that this isn’t just an adoption thing.
This is an everyday-of-your-life thing.
This is the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Love one another not just as you love yourself, but as HE has loved us. (John 13:34)
Let it grow in your heart.
Let Him be revealed to the people around you.
It is a choice we need to make everyday
towards our children,
the grocery store bag boy…
Y’all know you can’t stand it when he puts your meat with your cleaning supplies.
everyone you come in contact with.
We celebrate 3 years tomorrow.
I love remembering that day, all the hard and the joyous.
And I also love that it happened during the Christmas holidays.
This is such a sweet time of the year.
When people usually decide to love a little deeper, to be a little kinder, to give a little more.
But today, as I reminisce these past three years, and the growth and change that has happened.
I encourage myself, and anyone who may be reading, let’s make it a lifestyle.
A lifestyle of letting love grow and spring up in places we thought impenetrable.
And let’s remember to be patient with ourselves as we wait for love to grow.
Life isn’t a sprint and God knows that this precious work takes time.
This is where we see some of God’s most miraculous work, I believe.
Helping cultivate love in unlikely places: softly, tenderly, gracefully.
Happy Gotcha Day Lily-pie!